Do you think I will cry? No, I don't think you'll cry It's there forever baby! When we got engaged I had an engagement ring but when we got married we had no marriage rings Wherever I look, everyone has wedding rings I asked Scott, are you sure you don't want a ring? I always encouraged him to buy rings To buy a wedding ring At least then he can wear it on his hand but he kept refusing Can you explain your reasons why? There's a few really The first one is that I know myself and I was really sure that I was going to lose it The real reason that I was hesitant was because I didn't really agree with the symbolism behind rings and people say it's like an eternity because it's a circle, right? That's the general idea behind a ring I had no idea Oh really? Yeah, that's what it's supposed to be Like an unbroken circle A snake eating its tail I don't really feel like it is an eternity because you can just take it off That's the whole thing, right? What does it actually symbolise if it isn't permanently attached? Can't ever come off Unless you chop of your finger Yeah, that's an option Here? Down a little And what about you? Why did you want to get this one? I think my wish was to have a ring No matter what form it takes And at the same time I wanted to try a tattoo I've always wanted a tattoo but never knew what to get I think a tattoo should have meaning and bring back memories not something half-hearted or random Actually I wish I was a designer then I could design my own And this is one we found after looking through loads and loads of pictures online In the end we chose this one It doesn't go all the way around Oh yes Most importantly, isn't it Chinese Valentine's Day (5/20)? I think this the best present for that Yeah Right? We have rings! Even though it wasn't really for 5/20…
But yeah, yeah, yeah Just an excuse If you were to think about 5/20 as a way of becoming closer to your partner Then surely you should listen to what your partner wants more than just give them a gift because that's what other people do I don't really appreciate gifts as much as some other things that you do for me Like making me a lovely dinner I dunno, making a plan to go out together and do something fun I appreciate those thing much more than a gift From just now, you can tell Scott isn't someone who appreciates recieving gifts His "love language" isn't about receiving and giving gifts His love language is more likely quality time, some high quality shared moments together Quality time That's true I also need quality time For example the two of us sitting alone for an afternoon I think that's so so so lovely A person might not only have one love language They have two or three Do they want you to do something for them? Something in the language of service For example a massage or cooking a meal Making something tasty or washing clothes etc Or you clean up your house Maybe this will be more effective than gifting flowers It's true That thing that your partner has been asking you to do for months Do that I think you've accidentally stumbled into something we wanted to mention I think the books you've been reading have come through because we've been researching recently for a course about relationships I wanted to mention this because I really want to ask you guys We want to do these, we want to make a course about this What do you want to know? What are you struggling with? What are the questions you have and what would you find valuable in a course? So although we didn't actually do these rings specifically for 5/20 I think it was a great idea that you suggested for us to combine it together because I really want it to show to other people that like you choose the way that you love another person Be courageous in your choices about love How do you feel? It's actually not painful This custom of buying rings I think it's only recently that has become popular By recently I mean the last 100 years But it's definitely not a Chinese tradition Because the ancient Chinese didn't wear rings They never had this concept How do you feel? I'm just curious whether it'll hurt or not As long as it's not painful then yeah, no problem Then where did rings originate? The birthplace of this custom? It's ancient Rome or Greece originally So ceremony isn't set in stone and unchanging It is painful Yes So behind us right now This guy's important, we chose him for a reason Here in Albania where we are now the olive trees have a special significance in certain areas and I even read online that in one place they used to plant ten olive trees and you couldn't get married until you had done that as like a ritual, as like a ceremony Maybe that's why there are so many olive trees in Albania Maybe Thousands upon thousands of olive trees And I like this as a way to show that you can create your own ceremony I really like our presents to ourselves this year No matter Chinese Valentine's, Tomb Sweeping day or whatever they are all just a They are all an excuse A reason for celebration What everyone says isn't wrong We can use these festivals to help us express our love No matter if it's frequently or for festivals Do whatever is in our power to express love To use the right way to express it I recommend you read The 5 Love Languages Bye-bye
